Lifestyle: Is the tradition an obstacle to our freedom?

Lifestyle: Is the tradition an obstacle to our freedom?

Throughout most of my life I was a quite traditional person. I was religious. I was respecting the established rules in my family. I was adjusting to the social norms. All of that was normal for me. No surprise as I was born and raised in a specific environment where people were taught to do things for the simple fact that other people were doing them since forever.

I was asking my mom:

– Why are you doing this if you don’t like it?

– Because we all should do this. – she replied.

But why we should do this? – I insisted.

– This is the way we do it. It was always like this. All people around do it this way. – she cut.

So I was doing things their way, but I knew that one day I will be doing them completely differently. I hated the idea of doing something just because other people did. If something was purposeless or meaningless, I felt like removing it from my life forever.

I need to know what I’m doing and why I’m doing it.

If I pray or go to church which happens rather rarely, I don’t do it because I have to. I do it because I see its purpose. I want to do it consciously. I want to be aware. It was not the case before. Before it was a habit. I was feeling obliged to do it.

If I visit some of my relatives, I do it because I miss them, not because it’s my responsibility to meet them from time to time as they’re my family. Before, I was seeing them for the sake of fulfilling a commitment.

If I help people, I don’t do it because I should do it. I help because it’s my conscious decision and willingness to share my time, my attention, my energy. This is why I stopped a volunteering. I realized that I was not helping people to make them feel better. I was helping them to make myself feel better. To feel that I’m a good person. That my presence means something. That I’m needed.

Some people become doctors, lawyers, soldiers, businessmen, teachers not because it’s something they always wanted to do. It’s because it’s their family tradition. Because their mother, father, grandmother, grandfather were doing it as well and they feel beholden to follow the same professional or personal path. They abandon their own aspirations being afraid of the family’s disapproval. Being afraid of disappointing them. Or in the worst scenario of being rejected by them. This is how people agree to lead an unhappy life, but in line with the family’s wishes.

Is the tradition dangerous?

Not every tradition is dangerous. But every tradition should be carefully examined. The tradition might be dangerous if it’s taken for granted. If it’s followed without the slightest reflexion. Then it can cause more harm than the advantage. Pursuing blindly some rules without understanding them can be destructive.

I’m thinking about all people and groups of people who don’t question what they do, what they believe in, what’s important for them. In my opinion, questioning is essential to find meaning. Obeying the rules without questioning their value is a simple habit. Habits might be dangerous if they’re performed in a thoughtless way.

Is the tradition expendable?

Too much tradition can be stifling. Too little can be terrifying chaos.

As one person told me, the tradition gives a framework to survive. Jews are a group that managed to survive 2000 years without a country, but the tradition held them together. The tradition helped them to overcome tough challenges and to recover after painful experiences.

Another person said that tradition is a synonym for history. Denying history makes us repeat the mistakes of our ancestors. The same applies to good things from the past. Denying them deprives of a due appreciation for people and their sacrifices which made us live the way we do today.

Is our freedom endangered by the tradition?

Freedom without tradition means no marriage, no families raising children, no burial of the dead, no connection with the elderly, no religion and no holidays. Just individual humans bouncing around like atoms of gas.

Freedom is not something which stems from the tradition. It’s something being acquired. The tradition itself is not an obstacle to freedom if we don’t let it be. Freedom of speech, freedom of thought, freedom of choice. They’re all in our hands. We decide to what degree we let the tradition interfere.

I really like a statement of an Australian man, 79 years-old Joe, who said that the key is to have open eyes and mind. The key is to ask myself a question: What will I learn today? This question is valid despite any tradition which is put in place.


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5 thoughts on “Lifestyle: Is the tradition an obstacle to our freedom?”

  • What I take away from this post is that being genuine and congruent is important to you. So, you can see the value of traditions but you can also see when they have become irrelevant and are not really serving any true purpose. It’s a wonderful way to live!

    • Hi! Thank you so much for your comment! It was not like this before. I was used to following a tradition without questioning it. It’s with the course of time and with the course of different events in my life when I realized that something was not right. I understood we should be aware of why and how. What about you? Are you a traditional person?

  • What a great post! I totally agree.

    Sometimes I stick to tradition “because I like it”. When I do, it’s quite easy for me to come up with the benefits of it. I think what could have been a reason for something decades ago might have a different reason in today’s world. Just because the reason is different, it doesn’t mean that so should the tradition. Sometimes it just evokes good memories from our childhood.

    People often complain about others saying “That’s how things have been done in the past.” While I, too, have heard that phrase before, it usually didn’t have too much impact on me. Most of the time, they would just say that to show that it worked, but they would leave room for improvement. Sometimes their way WAS better. Recently, however, I had someone tell me that things have been like this for over a decade and it served them well that way… How is this professional? A problem was not solved, because this type of problem has never been taken upon in the past. Really? I lost a lot of faith that day.

    I like the fact that you see family because you want to, not because you have to.

    • Thank you Goldi! I truly appreciate your words! I completely agree that things which have worked a decade ago might not work today. Obviously, it”s not a reason to change the tradition or to remove it, but at least the tradition should be revised. The same applies to habits, methods, rules which were used in the past, but today they don’t solve problems anymore. All of them should have a purpose and not to be an empty custom not serving anyone. In my understaning, the tradition should serve people and people the tradition.

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