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Life Mistakes: Better regret what you did than what you didn’t.

Life Mistakes: Better regret what you did than what you didn’t.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life. And when I look at them from a long distance perspective, to my surprise I realize I don’t regret them.

Admittedly, I regret mistakes which make other people hurt, but as Goldi rightly said:

Sometimes we need to cause others pain to have them realize that they can do better.

I believe nothing happens without reason. For me and for other people as well. I was hurt a countless number of times in my life, but it gave me a strength to do better.

I believe all the pain I caused to others, even if unintentionally, maybe gave them strength as well to change something in their life. To understand something. To give up on something which was not good for them.

On the other hand, I’m the person who overthinks all mistakes for a long period of time. It might take years for me to recover. I relive the embarrassing moments without thinking they will not count for me in five years as much as they do in the present moment.

I remember when I was a small kid and I was rejected by other kids. At that time, it was one of the worse things I could have experienced. But eventually, it lead me to the point when I’m not emotionally depending on others.

Today, I know my value and I don’t have to confirm it each time. Today, I like my solitude. Today, I appreciate being alone. In my own world where everything is different. Everything is acceptable. Everything is mine.

What I regret the most are the things I haven’t done yet.

Why I keep them for later? Because:

  • I’m scared of failure
  • I’m afraid it might be dangerous for me or for my family
  • I’m attached to what I do have now
  • I’m good in my comfort zone
  • I’m lazy
  • I lose quickly interest in doing something systematically.

And indeed, this is something I should really regret every day that is gone without getting closer to what I want to do in my life. Every chance I miss to do what I want to do in my life is a reason to regret. Every time, I give up on something because I don’t feel I’m good enough is a reason to regret.

At the end of the day, it’s just the things we made that matter.

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10 thoughts on “Life Mistakes: Better regret what you did than what you didn’t.”

  • Yes, yes, yes. I nodded throughout the post. So on point.
    A great reminder to give things time. To take a step back. To take the heat off ourselves. What seems like a catastrophe now might not look so bad in a while.

          • In the short-term – yes. I might be lazy, and just not do something in that moment. But if it’s something I really want, I will get to it as soon as the lazy phase is over. I can be quite driven when a clear path is in sight.

            • It seems to be a very healthy approach. Not blaming yourself you’ve got into a lazy phase, but giving yourself time to go through this phase and to continue the effort. What was the longest lazy phase in your life?

              • There are different levels of lazy. On some level, the slight lazy might have been going on for years at some point in time. But the real lazy normally doesn’t exceed a couple of weeks. It just depends what your body needs. Once you reset it fully, it will go on for much longer before it needs another break.

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