Life Lessons: Things I’ve never learned at school

Life Lessons: Things I’ve never learned at school

It took me 10 years to unlearn what I have learned for last 20 years. I had to make this effort entirely on my own. School never brought me any kind of valuable education of how I could become a better myself.

I was attending a school which imposed a strict model I was supposed to fit in. There was no room for creative thinking. For questioning. For brainstorming. Memorizing useless definitions robbed the most valuable time in my life when I was still full of enthusiasm to learn. It burnt out my ability to see things clearly. It left me with a feeling of nonsense. I was not allowed to search for my way of unserstanding the things. My knowledge had to match the key which we all were measured with. It was terrible to see how great potentials were ruined by a lack of idea what to do with them.

Difference between school and life? School teaches you lessons and then give you a test. Life gives you a test and then you learn the lessons.

I was not a genious. I was not extremely talented. But I was keen on maths, physics and geography. Until I’ve got teachers who managed to make me loose all interest in those subjects. There were not a source of help, guidance and inspiration to reach higher. They seemed like teaching was a punishment for them. They could win first prize for the most boring lessons which have ever been conducted. The worst thing is that nobody was even checking on them, on how they were wasting their and our time.

Here are things I’ve never learned at school:

  • There is no one answer to the question
  • Different does not mean worse
  • Personality matters
  • Everyone has got a talent
  • Everyone deserves respect
  • Theory is nothing if you don’t put in practice
  • You need to believe in yourself
  • Mistakes are fine unless they are repetitive
  • You can be whoever you want
  • You can do whatever you dream about
  • Money has no value until you spend it
  • You don’t have to have money in order to be rich
  • If you need help, ask for it
  • You don’t have to be good at everything. Be the best at what you’re already good at.

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8 thoughts on “Life Lessons: Things I’ve never learned at school”

  • “Personality matters” – that stirred me up. A very profound observation. Thank you for sharing.

    I had an OK experience with school for the most part. Yes, I was interested in things that never went anywhere, but I can blame myself for most of those. Chemistry was the only one that I wish had gone differently. I always enjoyed it and was good at it. Something happened with our teacher after the first year of high-school and then things just went downhill with the new teacher. Who knows where I would be now…

    University, even though still rigid, allowed me to put my creative mind to use. I had an absolute blast (for the most part). But I wasn’t grown up at that time. Uni was in a vacuum. There was no link between that and the life of an adult.

    • Personality matters. I’ve said because I felt like we’d been all put into the same basket regardless of skills we got. We’re supposed to learn the same way, at the same pace and with the same results. Who knows who would I be today if someone believed at me that time or if I believed in myself. Do you have the same experience? Have you got someone who believed in you at your early years?

      • I interpreted it differently. In school, I was told that as long as you work hard and are good at what you do, you will be fine. That people will overlook your personality. I found that to be false in the real world. Personality seems to matter more than skill a lot of the time.

        I think I’ve been lucky enough to have people believe in me when I was younger. However, it’s not like the watered me. They’d come to view me, nod and walk away. I couldn’t grow without nutrients.

        Aside from having someone believe in you, the ability and want to FOSTER you if of great importance to me. Just because someone doesn’t tear me down does not mean they will help me.

        • You said that personality matters more than skill. It reminded me of a question asked during an interview: who is a more promising employee, the one with skills, but without attitude or the one with an attitude, but without skills? I learned afterward that you can always get skills, but you will not get the attitude. This is something which is a part of you.

          • I disagree with “you can always get skills, but you will not get the attitude”. I’ve encountered way too many people who were unable (or unwilling?) to get skilled. Personalities can be adjusted. AND, attitudes do not matter in ALL jobs.

            • What I mean by “attitude” is even a simple willingness to work. I met people who didn’t have relevant skills, but they were so determined that they got them and they are excellent employees. I met as well people who were really talented and skilled in a specific area, but so lazy that they didn’t do anything with it and they were just drifting from one day to another.

                • No, absolutely not. Being extravert or introvert doesn’t define you as an employee. You can be introvert and at the same time, you can be a high performer. Maybe, my point is rather related to people’s mentality. To the very basic principles which cannot be taught. Can they?

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