I lost a lot of people in my life. Some of them passed away. Some of them left my life with a big noise. Some of them quit my life silently without being noticed.
Some people, I’ve never seen them again.
Some people say “Hi”, but never say “How are you?”.
Some people behave like strangers. Like we’ve never had anything in common. Like we’ve never been close to each other.
We forget fast
People will always remember the bad things you did and always forget the good things you’ve done.
When people pass away we mostly hold good memories of them. When people decide to leave our life we mostly hold bad memories of them. Why is that? I was asking myself this question when I was trying to justify the reason someone left me. Despite all my efforts, it was hard to keep in mind the good moments we’ve spent together. The very first thought which was coming to the fore was bringing a feeling of resentment and bitterness.
I know pretty well which relationship was not healthy. Which one was not satisfactory. Which one was not mutual. Nevertheless, a feeling of being abandoned or rejected seemed stronger than any other logical argument.
I know pretty well that I cannot restore those relationships even if I would like to do so. They’re already my past. We’ve got our time. They completed their role in my life and I completed my role in their life. It’s time to take different paths. Staying together will not let us get the next lessons. It’s time to move on.
There was a time when I was regretting every relationship I lost. I was trying to find an explanation of what went wrong. I was making myself feel guilty.
– What did I do wrong?
The thing is that sometimes we don’t do anything wrong. It’s life which decides to break a cord. To make us raise in different directions. To link us with new people. To give us something better.
Tip: You can easily forget by keeping yourself busy with things you’re passionate about. Give your life a new direction, find a matter you can fully focus on, work hard and connect with new people who will totally absorb your attention.
Things change fast
I look at the pictures of people who were used to be my friends before. I say to myself:
– It’s so funny and so sad at the same time how things change.
Do you think things change from one day to another or is it a matter of time which breaks us unnoticeable? With the words, we use, with the way we look at people, with the time we don’t have for them. It’s absolutely spectacular how simple things influence the whole life. I’m amazed when analyzing their impact on my well-being and the well-being of people who are close to me.
Tip: Time is the best remedy and small things can successfully distract your attention. Drop by drop, day after day, you will see that the pain lacks its power. Enjoy small things, small moments of joy, small friendly gestures. You’re not alone even if you feel like the one. Millions of people went and go through the same. Help each other to win over the pain.
Things that cannot be fixed
How is it possible that we cannot change what happened? That we cannot fix mistakes? That it’s easier to leave than to repair? Everything happens for a purpose. Sometimes, we feel intuitively that there’s nothing to repair. Or we don’t want to repair it as it lost all its value for us. We don’t find any further enjoyment keeping it with us. Being a collector of dead friendships or relationships brings the emptiness and makes us coming back to a vicious circle we’ve managed to escape from.
Tip: Accept what happened. Forgive and let it go. This turnaround may be an opportunity to go where you’ve always wanted to be. Some people stop us from doing so. Refrain from looking back and benefit from what life is giving you today.
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