Life Crisis: How to live feeling guilty
Are you wondering how to stop feeling guilty for something which is already over? Do you feel fed up with thoughts triggering painful emotions? Would you like to escape a vicious circle of self-blaming? Let’s find out how to overcome one of the most destructive feelings.
Listen, you need to understand a fundamental thing: feeling guilty about what you’ve done doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It means you’ve tried to do something right, something which was right in your eyes, but it went into a bad direction. It means you care enough to take full responsibility for what happened. You know you did wrong. You know you could do differently. You know you cannot change it anymore.
It’s normal you feel guilty. It’s a good sign. It demonstrates your empathy for people who were hurt. It means you’re not a complete asshole who pretends nothing happened. Listen: it’s all right you feel like that. Let it be for a while and let it play its role.
What is obvious is that you don’t want to live feeling guilty forever. You acknowledge your responsibility, but you want to keep your head up.
The thought is what creates everything.
1. Change your thoughts
Replace them with new ones. Find something which will fulfill your mind. It may be:
- New passions
- New activities
- New areas of interest
- New people
- New ideas
- New goals
2. Use your senses
Sometimes despite all efforts, we don’t manage to change our thoughts. Then, it’s time to free your mind by using your senses. Choose something which is the most absorbing for your mind.
- Watch a movie
- Go to a gallery
- Go to a concert
- Gor for a bike ride
- Go to a gym
- Cook a good meal
- Hug someone
- Clean your place
- Play a game
3. Bring good karma to your life
The only way to overcome the effect of your bad karma is by doing a great amount of good karma in your life.
Yes, maybe you’ve done a lot of bad things in your life. Nevertheless, it doesn’t mean it’s too late to make them up with good things. Sometimes, it’s not possible to make it up for people we hurt. But it’s possible to make good things for other people who need it. With the course of time, you will realize how big impact it had on your life and on other people’s life. It may even make people you hurt forgive you as they see how hard you try to be a better person.
Remember: we forget with time. Something you feel heavily guilty about today might not have the same power in a few months or years. Give yourself this time. Understand that everyone makes mistakes and as human beings, we shouldn’t judge each other or blame each other. You shouldn’t judge or blame yourself either. If you got your lesson, you will never ever make the same mistake. And that’s the core of the healing process.
You can live feeling guilty or you can stop feeling guilty. The choice is yours.
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