I’m used to focussing on what I should change or improve in my life. However, there are certain things I should unquestionably erase from my life forever. Do you already know what you need to remove from your life?
There are some destructive habits I cannot get rid off for the simple reason that they lasted too much. And I’ve done nothing or not enough to dispose of them for good. It’s time to take a better look at what constitutes a bad seed in my daily thinking.
1. Believing I’m not good enough
Whatever I do, I don’t feel it’s good enough. I feel I could do it better. Whatever I do, I don’t feel I’m good enough. I feel I could be better. It’s horrible to feel dissatisfaction every time I tend to do something. From simple things such as cleaning my place to more complex ones such as writing a post or preparing a report at work.
I decided that whatever I do and whoever I am, I don’t have to be good enough. I can give as much as I want. I don’t have to give all. I don’t have to burn myself out just to feel good enough. I’m as good as I want to be today.
2. Doing more than I can
Being assertive is not my thing. I don’t refuse the requests, because I treat them as a way to prove my value. I want to prove that I can. I accept the challenge even if I know it will cost me too much.
If today I have less energy than yesterday, I don’t have to drag myself along on as a matter of principle. I don’t have to prove to be a superhero. I don’t have to be afraid that my refusal will pull me down.
3. Seeking people’s acceptance
What really disturbs me is that I let myself get affected by people’s emotions. I identify their negative feelings, their frustration, their dissatisfaction with my person. Since I always seek people’s acceptance, it makes me feel insecure. I feel like I bother people with my being.
I embrace only my emotions as the only ones which are right. People’s emotions don’t touch me anymore. I can empathize with someone’s sadness, but I don’t let it become a part of my life. My mood, my feelings, and my motivation come from my inner being.
I delay important things as I believe it’s not the best time to do them now. Either I wait for inspiration or for space to do things on my own. I don’t progress with big projects as I never find the right time to start them or to continue them.
I adopt a new approach: every moment is perfect to do what I want to do. I don’t need any special sign or trigger. Even if today I don’t manage to do it right, tomorrow I can make the things up. Even if today I fail, tomorrow I can get up. Delay no more.
5. Being inconsistent
My motivation is like a fire. Strong and powerful at first, but fading at last if no maintained. I expect too much. I compare myself too often. I give up too fast. I plan to climb the mountain. I imagine how beautiful is the peak. I start to run towards the peak. But when the path gets heavy, I lose my breath. I tell myself:
– I’ve got so much to walk yet. It’ll take a lot of time yet. I have no guarantee I’ll get there. What if I fall down? Is it worth losing so much energy to reach the top? How do I know I’ll be happy once I’m there? Maybe, I’ll be so exhausted that I will regret it?
I’ll go nowhere if I don’t keep going. If don’t keep climbing the mountain, I’ll be hanging around in a village at the bottom. Even if the top will not turn out to be the one I planned to reach, the journey will strengthen me and will teach me something I didn’t know before.
What are the things you want to remove from your life?
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