It’s my life. Don’t tell me how I should live.
Most of the people tend to tell us what should we do. How we should live. Who we should listen to. As if there was one best way to approach life. As if there was one best receipt to make our life happy. As if we’re all the same.
Mom knows better.
My mom was the one who wanted to tell me how I should live. She wanted me to study marketing. She wanted me to get married after graduating. She wanted me to keep my savings to buy a flat.
I studied journalism. I got married by 30. I spent my savings on travels.
Friends know better.
My friend was the one who wanted to tell me how I should raise my child. She wanted me not to come when my child cries at night. She wanted me to not to react when my child gets angry. She wanted me to keep the discipline by all means.
I come to my child at night whenever she needs me. I hug my child whenever she gets angry. I give my child as much love as possible.
Colleagues know better.
My colleagues are the ones who want to tell me what should be important for me. They want me to have a fancy car. They want me to drink every weekend. They want me to buy trendy gadgets.
I have a decent car. I spend calm weekends doing what I like and meeting who I like. I buy only indispensable stuff.
It’s my life.
It’s my life and I have the right to make choices. I have the right to make decisions. I have the right to make mistakes. I have the right to live differently. Why all people around try to deprive my rights? Why all people around don’t focus on their own lives?
Don’t teach. Share your experience.
I’m against teaching other people how they should live. They have their own intuition. They have their own background. They have their own priorities.
I opt for sharing experiences as the best way to support each other. To learn from each other. To understand each other. Sharing best practices is a powerful tool to excel what we do. It doesn’t mean we have to change. It means we may want to try a different approach. Not to follow blindly the plan other people have prepared for us.
Do other people tell you how you should live?
How do you react?
What’s the best approach to stay strong?