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Life Challenge: Don’t give the maximum. Go for optimum.

Life Challenge: Don’t give the maximum. Go for optimum.

Working in a corporation kills my creativity. Rules, procedures, micro-management, choosing between a team-oriented approach and a client-oriented approach. Finding a balance is pretty tough. The more you move into one of these directions, the more you get criticized by the other party. The more you do, the more you’ll be expected to do. The more you say yes, the more they will kick your ass.

Screw it! – you could say.

I can’t screw it. I have a child, I have a loan, I have bills to pay. Changing the company doesn’t change the problem. The problem is about me. About the fact, I always give all of me. I always want to prove I’m on a high level. I always want to be appreciated.

It doesn’t work this way.

I come back home totally exhausted. I don’t feel like doing anything constructive. I feel like running away and never coming back. I feel like crying I’ve made again the same mistake.

I was told yesterday:

You shouldn’t give the maximum at work. You should give it optimum. The maximum should be given at home or where your place is.

I know I gave too much.

And I know I get the results right now.

I have got clients who push me to the limits. I have got workmates who don’t care anymore. I have got my manager who’s always busy.

I feel alone in this business.

I can’t work less. I just can’t. It’s stronger than me.

I feel anxiety knowing how many things are waiting for me. How many emails are unread. How many projects are in progress. How many talks are postponed.

I played the wrong cards.

I don’t feel like living. The days come and go. I’m only a pawn in the corporate machine.

I want to be self-sufficient. Self-dependent. Self-organized.

I want to write. I want to interview. I want to create.

I want to bring real value into this world.

Who cares how much money I earn for the company? It doesn’t improve the world. It doesn’t improve me. It doesn’t improve you. It’s empty.

I want to stop giving the maximum in areas which don’t make me happy. I want to go for optimum.

Life matters more.


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Mimi



9 thoughts on “Life Challenge: Don’t give the maximum. Go for optimum.”

  • I was nodding the whole time as I was reading this post.
    Same here, Mimi. Same effin here.
    It annoys me how easy it is for some people to just give a bit. If we all did our actual best, things would have ran smoother. I always thought hard work will be rewarded. I find that very rarely the case. Like you say – they just then expect even more, while the people who do little are given even less work.
    Why doesn’t this bother more people?

    I agree that work (especially one we are not really passionate about) shouldn’t be the place that sucks out all the energy out of us. But how about being more conscious and giving your best ALL the time. Everywhere. Is it not sustainable?

    • Thank you Goldi for this comment. I always can count on your great perspective and this is something I really appreciate. I have no clue why actually I give all my best at work which is not my place I would like to spend the rest of my life. Is it because I want to prove myself and people who didn’t believe in my that I got it? Is it because I want more and more money? Is it because I have no courage to take a risk of following my dreams?

      My dream was to be a journalist. I made my studies in journalism. I worked here and there as a journalist, but I didn’t want to sacrify my future family on being full time journalist, having to work day and night, going for long trips and having no time for them while they could need me.

      Sadly, I realized that having a full time job is not any better. I don’t work at nights, I don’t work on weekends, I don’t work on bank holidays. But spending 8h a weekday at regular work and giving my best brings exactly the same result.

      I sacrifice my family by not giving them my full attention, quality time and my love. Why? Because giving my best at work exhausts me immensely. I don’t have freedom of working less because I put myself into a vicious circle. And I’m afraid that when I leave this circle and start to work less…yeah, what actually am I afraid of? Of losing in eyes of people I should not care about? Losing a reputation of a successful employee which I actually don’t know I really do have? Being less valuable for the company?

      And what then?

      I believe I need to revise my vision on what is truly important.

      • I’m not sure of the answer myself, but for me, I think it’s majorly how I was brought up. I was taught to work hard. To care about other people’s stuff more than my own (ex. if I borrow something from someone, I treat it like gold, while others don’t care, and often times don’t even return it). It’s about being responsible and reliable. Old school traits. While it hurts to know that those aren’t always appreciated and recognized, I still try to live by them, because I believe the world would be a better place if we followed more of those.

        I wonder if having lived your dream a little is better or worse. You’ve had a glimpse and you gave it up. I feel like I never lived it in the first place…
        But you are spot on about full-time jobs. It’s insane.

        I hear you. Your questions make total sense. In the end, I do fear losing my job, because I need the money. Even though, I know that I would have to screw up royally for that to happen. Because if others aren’t pulling their share and they’re still here…
        Ultimately, it has a lot to do with the higher-ups. If they cared enough, they would have great people working for them, and there would be time for everything.

        Yes, giving my best at work drains me, but it drains me less if I feel like I’m actually doing something that has purpose and is appreciated. Otherwise, feeling miserable adds to the drainage.

        • How does it happen that some people do not fear to lose a job and go for their dreams by all means? Are they brought up differently or they have worked out such an approach? I was always told by my parents to go for a more secure option. I was not taught how to take a risk. Is it something I can learn?

          • Interesting. Same with me – told to take the more secure option. However, I do have a bit of a gambling personality. But not when it comes to things that will make, or break you. The people that I know who don’t care, and go for their “dreams” are backed financially by their parents. I don’t really have that option. Plus, I wouldn’t want to be at their mercy, anyway.

            • How about people who are not backed financially by their parents? Are they hard workers, believers or just lucky? Wherever you turn to, you hear stories of people who had nothing, who had nobody, but eventually, they have succeeded in their life.

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