6 mistakes I have made when trying to follow my dreams
Mistakes are big time consumers, but they bring a great opportunity to learn. Today, I’m going to tell you about the mistakes I have made when trying to follow my dreams. Some of them I make regularly. But each time they teach me something new. Each time they push me to new directions. Each time they make me realize how much I need them.
MISTAKE 1. – I CAN’T DO IT
Seeing how much is to be done discourages me to such degree that I start doubting I could ever do it. I feel lacking numerous skills. I feel not being good enough. I feel I’m not talented as much as I would like to be.
Then, I realize I can take imperfect actions. I can take my own path. I can do things at my pace. I might not do everything as I would like to, but I can do it. And it’s the way we go through that matters the most. Not the goal itself. I can do whatever I want. I just have to start. I just have to try. I just have to keep going.
MISTAKE 2. – ONLY OTHER PEOPLE CAN DO IT.
I look at all successful people who managed to make their dreams come true and I believe I would be never able to do when they’ve done. I believe they got something I don’t have. I believe they know something I don’t know. I believe they have different possibilities that do I.
I see the tip of the iceberg. I don’t see the hard ordinary work which had to be done. I don’t see the set of same doubts, fears, and uncertainties all these people are dealing with the way I’m dealing with them now. We all go through the same pattern. We all make the same mistakes. We all need to take a hat off the life who challenges us with failures, rejections, and downs.
If they’ve got something, I can get it too. If they know something, I can find out too. If they have possibilities, I can have them too.
It’s a matter of time.
MISTAKE 3.- I HAVE TIME TO DO IT.
I believe I should wait for the time when I’m ready. I believe I should wait for the time when I feel inspired. I believe I should wait for the time when there are no obstacles. When everything goes easy, smoothly, accordingly to the plan. I believe I have time.
One day, I made a list of things I would have made if I knew my life will end up in one year. What if I really knew, my life will end up in one year? Would I wait to make my dreams come true? Would I wait to do what I love? Would I wait for anything?
We don’t know how much we do have. We always live as if we would have all the time of this world. We don’t. We should never wait for anything. We all have imperfect circumstances to make our dreams come true. We have full-time jobs. We have families to take care of. We have loans to pay off. We have plenty of ordinary problems we need to live with.
We have one life to do something with.
MISTAKE 4. – I COULD DO IT IF…
I could do it if I didn’t have a full-time job. I could do it if my children were grown up. I could do it if I were independent financially. I could do it if I were less tired. I could do it if I slept more. I could do it if…
There is always a good reason to procrastinate what I should do today. There is never a perfect time to do something. Either we do it or not. Either we take a risk to do something with imperfect conditions or we wait all life for times which never come.
MISTAKE 5. – I CAN DO IT ALL BY MYSELF.
I don’t like asking for help. I don’t like owing someone a favor. I like owing everything to myself. Otherwise, the success is not only mine. On the other hand, what is wrong with sharing the success? Everyone has a role to accomplish. My role doesn’t have to less valuable than the other’s one.
I never realized before successful people always ask for help. They don’t win by themselves. There is always a team who supports them. They’re not lonely islands even if they pretend to be so. In order to build something, we need people who can help us with.
I don’t have to do everything by myself. I can ask for help. I can ask for advice. I can ask for a favor. One day someone may ask me for the same. And that day, I will able to give my thank you.
MISTAKES 6. – I ALREADY LOST MY CHANCE.
I’m used to believing most of my dreams should have been made come true when I was a young girl. I see many twenties who are already on the top. I feel like everything is already behind me. I believe it’s already too late to start something new.
But then I realize that maybe I needed all this time to learn, to gain new skills, to get experience. I needed this time to discover who I am, what do I want, where I want to go. Maybe if I started to make my dreams come true at my twenties, then they wouldn’t have such a big impact on my life. Some dreams need time. They need time to grow. To flourish. To yield fruits. Time which passed is not always a sign of loss. Time which passed is sometimes a sign of being ready.
Does any of these mistakes sound familiar to you?
What another mistake would you add to the list?
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