Other days, finding friends and maintaining friendships was a pretty easy undertaking. We’ve been not sitting over a cup of coffee staring at a smartphone. We’ve been sharing with people undivided attention. We’ve been giving them full time. Today, many of us don’t make friends, because we don’t have time for it. We put forward other priorities.
There are numerous reasons why we stop taking care of friendships. The most frequent ones are:
- frequent travels
- moving abroad
- new lifestyle
They’re not the ultimate reasons for giving up friendships or not making new ones, but definitely, they influence our engagement in the whole process as such. Not mentioning that the culture doesn’t support it either. Even such an inconspicuous thing like going to big malls instead of small local shops discourage getting to know better people who live around. Many of us don’t know our neighbors. We live close by, but too far in order to know how they’re doing.
It’s the same for me. I don’t know my neighbors. And I’m not particularly keen on getting to know them. I’m doing fine without them being a part of my life. Maybe because they don’t seem to live a life or have a personality which would be attracting for me. I like to get inspired by people, not just listen to their complaints. Does it mean I should force myself to get any kind of connection with them to keep the appearance of being sociable? I don’t feel it this way. I’m OK with the idea of having my private corner even if it means living on the sidelines.
Was it easier before to make friendships?
For sure times were different and habits were different. Most of the people were taking time to get to know each other, talking live, finding time to help each other, spending together all free time. They’ve been creating communities that were enabling them to stay in touch on a regular basis. Today, we work long hours, we stay at home during the weekends, we spend free time in front of a screen. We don’t feel like making any effort to accommodate new people into the established scheme.
While we could penalize a new lifestyle many people adopted, it turned out to bring benefits as well. Despite we lose some friendships in real life, all technological achievements opened wonderful opportunities to meet/e-meet incredible people from the whole world without leaving our place. Even if you lack inspiring people in your environment, you can connect with anyone around the globe to share your experiences, worries, doubts, dreams, stories. You can create new friendships with people who understand you, who went through the same challenges, we overcame the same difficulties.
We all know that not all the places in the internet facilitate forming valuable relationships. That’s why it’s important to select carefully the right spaces to get in touch with the right people. There’s plenty of applications that enable people to chat about anything and everything. However, what matters for me personally is to get something more. I adore having a possibility to learn something new, to engage in discussions over a specific topic that interests me, to get a new perspective.
That’s why today I would like to share with you my 3 most preferred networks to find like-minded friends. I believe these places are the most rewarding in terms of value vs time. They help to enrich not only your social life but also your knowledge, your point of view and your awareness.
1. Facebook groups
This channel of communication is extremely effective when you join a smaller community. The reason is simple: the smaller group, the smaller crowd, the more chance to become noticed. What’s more, Facebook groups encourage to search for niche interest groups. That’s a perfect opportunity to get some new friends with whom you can develop new skills, change your vision and who can support you in your new ventures.
My favorite forum is Quora. This channel helped me to go through numerous challenges when I needed to share my concerns or worries with people who really understood. I’ve found there a lot of bright and smart people who not only supported me in finding the best way to tackle my struggles, but also took their time to share their stories related to my issues. That was an amazing experience to link with people from any country in this world and to feel that there are no limits anymore. Time, distance, language are not barriers anymore.
The best place where I really feel like at home is my blog. People who regularly visit my page, read my posts and speak their mind are an invaluable source of encouragement. I cannot imagine leaving this network forever knowing how many great people I would lose contact with. I believe that would leave a pretty big hole in my life. These people cheering me up on my way are one of the best gift I’ve got in my life.
I must say that I don’t discard making friends in real life as without them my existence would be quite sad and lonely. I like meeting them from time to time face to face over a cup of coffee, without staring at my smartphone, not looking at my watch every 5 min. But I’m happy as well to have a chance to create and maintain powerful relationships with people online without leaving my place. I’m blessed that I can count on them in case I need a kick to keep going. I hope I’ll be able to return all good I’ve received from them.
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