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3 things you need to know before you force someone to do something you want.

3 things you need to know before you force someone to do something you want.

We don’t believe it’s possible to force someone to do something if the person doesn’t want to. Meanwhile, we use all possible tools to make it. Because we’re impatient. Because we want to rush the things. Because we want to get something right now.

Let me share with you what I learned about forcing things out.

1. Forcing things out never brings expected satisfaction.

Even if we get from someone what we want we feel deep inside all we’ve got was not genuine. Was not honest. Was not the result of someone’s willingness to do it exactly at that given time. Things we rush don’t give us so much joy as they would if we just have let them come.

2. It keeps people frustrated.

No one likes to be in a position of inferiority. No one likes being pushed to take a decision. No one likes doing things not being ready for. Forcing someone to do something is not respecting someone’s right time and right place to do so. Forcing someone to do something has nothing to do with clear and honest communication of own needs. Of own fears. Of own goals.

3. There is right time for everything.

Everything changed when I started to await things, not to wait for them. Awaiting gives space and freedom to act. Waiting pushes to get things done right now and to be always in control of the situation. Awaiting brings inner peace. Waiting generates more and more impatience. Knowing there is a right time for everything helps to build trust and confidence.

I wish you a day full of freedom!

Mimi.



2 thoughts on “3 things you need to know before you force someone to do something you want.”

  • I agree with 2 and 3 but don’t quite agree with 1. I don’t believe people are mind readers, I like to tell people what I want, it is up to them to do it or not, but i don’t wait for other people to make it happen for me. If I want something badly, I can do/get it myself.

    I just wrote a post related to this “why are you afraid to ask”:)

    • Hi! 🙂 I see nothing wrong in telling people what we want. This is something which definitely improves the communication. But some people may be likely to push us to do something instead of just expressing their wish. I know by experience that I’m not entirely satisfied when someone did something just because I was really pushy. I know deep inside it shouldn’t go this way. That maybe there’s a reason someone doesn’t want to do something.

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